Profile / United States
Lilia Gonzalez-Joly, LMFT
California
LMFT - Relationships and Self-esteem
See online therapy options- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
- CBT and ACT methods
About Lilia
Lilia Gonzalez-Joly is a California licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) with 16 years of experience. She focuses on relationship concerns, family conflict, trauma and abuse, self-esteem, and career questions. Sessions are offered in English and Spanish and center on practical steps people can try between meetings.
She helps people notice unhelpful thoughts and patterns that keep problems stuck. Conversations are straightforward and aimed at clearer communication, repairing trust, and reducing shame or guilt. She uses methods that encourage people to act in line with their values and to shift behaviors that no longer serve them.
Lilia draws on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to identify automatic thoughts and test new ways of responding. She also uses Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to clarify what matters and support committed action. Attachment-based ideas inform work on closeness, boundaries, and relational patterns.
In sessions she listens to the specific problem, suggests concrete experiments, and checks what does and does not help. Practical homework is common: short exercises, communication practices, or reflection prompts to use during the week. This keeps progress measurable and focused.
Many people come with communication problems, forgiveness questions, or a wish to reconnect with life purpose. Lilia works with those concerns directly and helps people break issues into manageable steps. Before booking, confirm the current session formats to match logistics and preference.
How her approaches translate to online sessions
CBT focuses on spotting and testing the thoughts and behaviors that keep problems going. It uses structured exercises and brief experiments to change patterns that feed anxiety, low self-esteem, or recurring conflicts. ACT helps people clarify what matters and take small steps toward those values, even when feelings are difficult. That can be useful for motivation, guilt, and life-purpose questions. Attachment-based work looks at how early and current relationship patterns affect closeness and trust, and it guides concrete changes in how people relate to one another.Finding the best approach is part of the work. The therapist will collaborate with each person to choose which methods fit their goals and preferences. Plans are adjusted as progress or obstacles appear so sessions stay focused and practical.
This profile does not list specific session formats, so confirm the available online options before booking. Many people find online sessions help fit therapy into busy schedules, allow for shorter check-ins when needed, and reduce travel time. The online setting still supports the same kinds of practical exercises, communication practice, and value-based planning that occur in person, and the therapist will explain how those tasks will be handled during your first meeting.
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Primary focus
Additional focus areas
Therapeutic approaches
Experience
16+ years
Listed in
California
Languages
English, Spanish
Frequently asked questions
What concerns does she work with most often?
She focuses on relationship issues, family conflict, trauma and abuse, self-esteem, and career questions.
How would you describe her therapeutic style?
She uses direct, practical conversations that lead to concrete experiments and weekly exercises.
How much experience does she have?
She has 16 years of professional experience as an LMFT practicing in California.
What credential and location does she hold?
She is an LMFT licensed in California and practices with a focus on relationship and personal concerns.
Which languages are supported in sessions?
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish. International clients are not currently accepted.
What session formats are available?
Specific session formats are not listed here; please confirm current session options before booking.
How does pricing work?
Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin working with her?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
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